Old ways won’t open new doors

O L D vs N E W | Old ways won’t open new doors… obvious right?

 

We get stuck in the old ways because they feel safe, they are familiar, and you believe that this IS the only way. We don’t like to change things up because its damn scary! For me the old ways brought up self-doubt, judgement, anxiety, de-pression, and paralysis due to FEAR. So my new way is to embrace change, and reminding myself that I have the privilege, as we all do, to choose only those thoughts, opportunities, people, places, experiences, lifestyle, that supports my NEW way. Saying NO to what we do not want and YESSSS to what we do want.

 

If you had to choose between the OLD and the NEW way what words would you choose to describe each path?

 

New doors wont open without you knocking, which door will you knock on? RED or YELLOW?

 

I choose RED, that’s my YESSS Door!!! Red because it resonates with me and the words that come to mind are confidence, power, strength, self-love, courage, and bravery.

 

Spend a few minutes pondering on which one will bring you the results you desire.

 

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Celebrating the feminine

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As I reach over to the bedside table to press the dismiss button on my smartphone alarm, I think, “just another 5 minutes”, instead, I CHOOSE the thought, “5-4-3-2-1-GO!” #the5secondrule by Mel Robbins, which is so simple and yet so effective! I sit up in bed, light a candle, meditate, harmonize heart and mind, setting the tone for my best day ahead.

Women, womanhood, femininity, a quality, an essence which is enduring and timeless, it’s inherent nature is magical and holds everything together.

 

Sure we have flaws, we crumble, we crack, we freak out, as I write these words it reminds me of how my son and husband drive me to lose my S***T because of their inability to assist me with managing our home, despite the fact that they are treated like absolute Kings…almost always.

 

Can you relate?

 

Yip, sure you can, I know I’m not alone with this frustration! I too have those days where I open that bottle of red wine with the intention of drinking a half a glass to take the edge off after a stressful day, whilst preparing dinner. I won’t lie, one glass may have lead to a few more glasses which required me to blast the speakers with my favorite tunes and let loose!

 

You know I love a lounge disco, it’s readily available, requires no dressing up, there’s no one to pass judgment, I have full control of the media player and well, I have the choice to dance starkers too!

 

I gently lift my sore head off the pillow, pour a cup of lemon water and start my NEW day.

Tackling those daily tasks with LOVE and with SPEED, doing the school run, moving my body, corresponding to e-mails, coaching and consulting clients, completing HR projects, designing adverts for my INSTA, FACEBOOK, LINKED IN, TWITTER, and GOOGLE posts.

 

Of course, I want to take full advantage of the free marketing we get from the social media platforms, so I have had to research the “HOW TO’s”, and spent hours developing a content media strategy and having loads of fun playing on Adobe Illustrator!

 

Reflecting on my personal and business progress, setting new goals, planning my week, my business content plan to be shared, and scheduling my daily and monthly tasks into my diary for the week ahead are essential activities I need to do consistently to stay on track.

Scheduled into my diary too, “Search for new recipes”. While we were in the store isles to grab a few groceries the other day my son was complaining that he has lost complete interest in eating because my cooking is so boring and not flavorful enough! My attempt to ensure he is fed nutritious, healthy meals appears to not have been very well received, “BAD Mother!” I thought, “You deserve a slap on the wrist!” Just proves that because he is a teen doesn’t mean that I have stopped beating myself up for “Not doing the best I can for him”.

 

Taking our spoilt furry Basett Hound kids to the vet for their Paw-dicure is a funny story I have to share. So, I manage to get the Basett’s into the vets rooms and our younger male “Oliver” literally starts to S**t himself as the vet approaches him to pick him up and take him through to the rooms… can you deal?

Of course, he needed to be sedated to get his nails trimmed and the bill was 4 times more then what it should have been… Why I am even batting an eyelid about how this panned out is beyond me? There has never been anything simple or normal about our animals or our household for that matter…. So my productive day I had planned didn’t quite pan out as planned.

 

The Basett’s require exercise which seems to be solely my responsibility, grooming them, prepping their bone broth for their healthy meals, prepping our green juice and overnight oat jars too so I get to sail through my to-do list with ease and grace.

 

Allocating funds to those self-care rituals, the highlighting and dying of those grey’s, plucking or tinting the brows, bikini and lip waxes, let alone taking the time to sit in the salon whilst my mind is racing about what I still need to get through before I can have 30 mins to relax in whichever way works for me at the time.

 

After many decades I have learned that Self-care rituals are in fact not an act of vanity but energizing and empowering myself to be the best version of myself on my pursuit to LIVING my best life. By embracing these rituals I have learned to look forward to them and believe that it is my divine right and in order to give love to those close to me and to serve others, these are non-negotiable’s.

 

After evening dishes and meal prep for the next day I get to unwind and read a couple of pages of my self-help paperback, Oh’ Yes, and lastly the most important task, 5 mins before I slip into my sleep state, I affirm my “I AM” statements learned from, Dr. Wayne Dyer, “ I AM ABUNDANCE”, “I AM PEACE”, “I AM GORGEOUS” and any others I feel I need.

I hear some of you responding with “ What a load of WOO WOO”!

 

Why not GIVE IT GO? What have you got to lose?

 

You can only gain a POSITIVE MINDSET. 

 

Unfortunately, the reality is that we are all a little broken and have reinforced the “I AM NOT” statements, such as, “I AM NOT INTELLIGENT ENOUGH”, “I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH” for a lifetime, so it will take time to unlearn.

 

I am sure many of you fulfilling feminine roles may relate to this snippet or maybe enduring TOUGHER circumstances, have LONGER TO DO Lists to get through on a daily basis, maybe raising larger families single-handedly whilst working in a professional career.

Nurturing, self-giving, vulnerability, and sensitivity– the very attributes of femininity to go under fire——can actually be our greatest STRENGTHS.

In HONOUR of celebrating the ESSENCE that represents, kindness, bravery, will, passion, grace, and light-hearted-ness.

“ I SALUTE YOU!”

 

Natalie Leach- CHRP

 

Are you playing your people to their strengths?

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Often employees find themselves stuck, unfulfilled in their roles and are merely functioning on autopilot. Their only motivation to present themselves at work every day is to collect that monthly paycheck, they live for weekends and absolutely dread a Monday morning, spending Sunday nights filled with anxiety about the idea that they need to face another day in a role which is sapping them of any last drop of inspiration they may have left.

For some this may lead to a state of depression, reaching for medication to cope with this draining job they need to face every day, and may even lead to the employee developing chronic illness and exiting the business due to incapacity or dismissal for poor performance.

 

Are you willing to prevent this scenario from playing out?

A Gallup analysis reveals that people who use their strengths every day are three times more likely to report having an excellent quality of life, six times more likely to be engaged at work, 8% more productive and 15% less likely to quit their jobs.

 

Realizing your employees’ strengths and developing a strengths-based culture will contribute to strategic human capital and succession planning and ultimately engaging with happy people on a daily basis and achieving your business targets.

 

Remaining curious about what makes people tick is a winning perspective to adopt in setting your business and humans up for SUCCESS. Get serious about investing in their development and retaining your talent in your business by adopting the “we play our people to their strengths” attitude.

 

@Hands-on Human Resources we offer strengths assessments, coaching, and mentorship programs to empower and grow your talent and utilize them in positions where they will feel valued and impact your business positively.

 

Natalie Leach- CHRP

 

Stress Resilience Rituals – Step into those red heels darlings!

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STEP INTO YOUR RED PAIR OF HEELS DARLINGS,strike that power pose, and strut your stuff bravely, confidently and courageously!

So the reality of going it alone can be daunting at times especially when your projects have wrapped up and you waiting for the next one to start. My focus has been to keep my eye on the prize, to power through every day and hold the belief that the energy I am investing will not be in-vane and reinforcing that my efforts will bear fruit soon!

I found myself exhausted due to spending countless late nights at my desk researching, developing and marketing my brand, staying on trend, all with a super positive attitude whilst journeying through my personal transformation.

So after exploring and acting on the resources available to continuously improve the version of my service offerings, I was anticipating that phone call or e-mail inquiry. I finally got that call for an inquiry that sounded like it was “in-the-bag”! Shooo, what a relief! After shooting many arrows, I hit something! Super excited about the inquiry,  and the potential client went quiet. The final push for a response was received at the last minute and the service offering was REJECTED with no real clarity on the reasons to assist with improving my offering.

Can you relate?

This had the potential to drive me on a trip down self-doubt and or self-destruction streets OR I could CHOOSE to sail down the river of Resilience and practice these rituals.

So how did I choose to respond?

I chose to shed a frustrating few tears, and expressed a couple of Sh!ts and F*ck’s and then stepped into my gym shoes and realized that my gym was closed. So I streamed a You Tube workout video, selected my favorite playlist(you know those tunes that get you head banging in your lounge disco) and got my sweat on at the foot of my bed, in candle light –be-coz LOAD-SHEDDING! I must have been a sight to see!

I recovered, slept like the dead and woke the next morning to ask myself what lesson I needed to learn? What state of mind is going to help me get to my desired outcome?

I thanked my lovely teachers and put pen to paper. Observed my thoughts, feelings, and listened to the answer and then took action. 

What is my lesson?

My lesson learned is to develop the skill called RESILIENCE. We need to develop that “thick leather skin” which so many people I have engaged with seem to possess naturally.

Then there are people like me, who have had to develop this skill, defined as “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

What positive outcomes have come from this?

The positive outcome from this experience is that I have learned a valuable skill which I will apply when faced with experiences such as these again, I have birthed my RESILIENCE RITUALS and have written an article to share my experience with you and empower you with tools to get through a similar situation.

What I have learned is that it is okay to FEEL VULNERABLE and then SNAP OUT OF IT! and then BOUNCE BACK EVEN STRONGER!

Only YOU can choose how you respond to difficulties. Its actually easier to FEEL and RELEASE, and then MOVE ON, then to stay stuck.  Its not an option for us to MOPE and DWELL there! 

I have listed my resilience rituals below for you to try out when faced with those tough situations.

RESILIENCE RITUALS:

  1. Kill yourself and your teachers with kindness. Beating yourself up about the “what if’s”, the “would’ve”, “could’ve’”, “should’ve ‘s” blah… blah… blah.., serve no purpose!  FEEL the emotion and ACT from a place of LOVE.
  2. Be brave.  Continue to put yourself out there! – Its tough, but POWER through! Keep walking tall, in those heels! Connect with your family and friends.            
  3. Stay Flexible. You need to be able to roll with the punches darlings. Its HARD I know, BUT DO some introspection and be flexible in figuring out what you should do next.
  4. Re-affirm WHY you are doing what you are doing.
  5. Reach out to those in a similar situation. You don’t have to navigate this on your own.
  6. Retreat. Do whatever brings you JOY.Take an Epsom salts foam bath, sauna, steam bath, book a massage, walk on the beach or forest, exercise, meditate, journal, draw, paint or craft. Do what ever helps you raise YOUR vibration.

NOW GO WITH THE FLOW

What did I do to unlearn my old thinking patterns and change my response?

I have changed my story by investing in an NLP Life Coach who is journeying with me, utilizing NLP Techniques to remove fears, limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering thought patterns that will bring about lasting change.

What does NLP stand for?

NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Neuro, refers to your neurology; Linguistic refers to language; Programming refers to how that neural language functions. In other words, learning NLP is like learning the language of your own mind.

What is an NLP Life Coach?

A person who will journey with you to develop yourself using a range of techniques to help you develop new beneficial thinking patterns, shifting your behaviour towards achieving your desired outcomes. This methodology will assist you in removing old habits so you can be a better version of you.

I am so ECSTATICALLY EXITED about my positive life change and cannot wait to journey alongside yours.

Would you like to change your story? 

CONNECT with me and lets journey together in creating your new story.

Namaste!

Much love,

Nats

 

Natalie Leach, CHRP