STEP INTO YOUR RED PAIR OF HEELS DARLINGS, strike that power pose, and strut your stuff bravely, confidently and courageously!
So the reality of going it alone can be daunting at times especially when your projects have wrapped up and you waiting for the next one to start. My focus has been to keep my eye on the prize, to power through every day and hold the belief that the energy I am investing will not be in-vane and reinforcing that my efforts will bear fruit soon!
I found myself exhausted due to spending countless late nights at my desk researching, developing and marketing my brand, staying on trend, all with a super positive attitude whilst journeying through my personal transformation.
So after exploring and acting on the resources available to continuously improve the version of my service offerings, I was anticipating that phone call or e-mail inquiry. I finally got that call for an inquiry that sounded like it was “in-the-bag”! Shooo, what a relief! After shooting many arrows, I hit something! Super excited about the inquiry, and the potential client went quiet. The final push for a response was received at the last minute and the service offering was REJECTED with no real clarity on the reasons to assist with improving my offering.
Can you relate?
This had the potential to drive me on a trip down self-doubt and or self-destruction streets OR I could CHOOSE to sail down the river of Resilience and practice these rituals.
So how did I choose to respond?
I chose to shed a frustrating few tears, and expressed a couple of Sh!ts and F*ck’s and then stepped into my gym shoes and realized that my gym was closed. So I streamed a You Tube workout video, selected my favorite playlist(you know those tunes that get you head banging in your lounge disco) and got my sweat on at the foot of my bed, in candle light –be-coz LOAD-SHEDDING! I must have been a sight to see!
I recovered, slept like the dead and woke the next morning to ask myself what lesson I needed to learn? What state of mind is going to help me get to my desired outcome?
I thanked my lovely teachers and put pen to paper. Observed my thoughts, feelings, and listened to the answer and then took action.
What is my lesson?
My lesson learned is to develop the skill called RESILIENCE. We need to develop that “thick leather skin” which so many people I have engaged with seem to possess naturally.
Then there are people like me, who have had to develop this skill, defined as “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
What positive outcomes have come from this?
The positive outcome from this experience is that I have learned a valuable skill which I will apply when faced with experiences such as these again, I have birthed my RESILIENCE RITUALS and have written an article to share my experience with you and empower you with tools to get through a similar situation.
What I have learned is that it is okay to FEEL VULNERABLE and then SNAP OUT OF IT! and then BOUNCE BACK EVEN STRONGER!
Only YOU can choose how you respond to difficulties. Its actually easier to FEEL and RELEASE, and then MOVE ON, then to stay stuck. Its not an option for us to MOPE and DWELL there!
I have listed my resilience rituals below for you to try out when faced with those tough situations.
- Kill yourself and your teachers with kindness. Beating yourself up about the “what if’s”, the “would’ve”, “could’ve’”, “should’ve ‘s” blah… blah… blah.., serve no purpose! FEEL the emotion and ACT from a place of LOVE.
- Be brave. Continue to put yourself out there! – Its tough, but POWER through! Keep walking tall, in those heels! Connect with your family and friends.
- Stay Flexible. You need to be able to roll with the punches darlings. Its HARD I know, BUT DO some introspection and be flexible in figuring out what you should do next.
- Re-affirm WHY you are doing what you are doing.
- Reach out to those in a similar situation. You don’t have to navigate this on your own.
- Retreat. Do whatever brings you JOY. Take an Epsom salts foam bath, sauna, steam bath, book a massage, walk on the beach or forest, exercise, meditate, journal, draw, paint or craft. Do what ever helps you raise YOUR vibration.
NOW GO WITH THE FLOW!
What did I do to unlearn my old thinking patterns and change my response?
I have changed my story by investing in an NLP Life Coach who is journeying with me, utilizing NLP Techniques to remove fears, limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering thought patterns that will bring about lasting change.
What does NLP stand for?
NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Neuro, refers to your neurology; Linguistic refers to language; Programming refers to how that neural language functions. In other words, learning NLP is like learning the language of your own mind.
What is an NLP Life Coach?
A person who will journey with you to develop yourself using a range of techniques to help you develop new beneficial thinking patterns, shifting your behaviour towards achieving your desired outcomes. This methodology will assist you in removing old habits so you can be a better version of you.
I am so ECSTATICALLY EXITED about my positive life change and cannot wait to journey alongside yours.
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